First time at the Dorchester Rd (in Summerville) location and the speed is almost non-existent. When I got into the drive thru line last night there were only 3 or 4 cars in front of me. In line at 8:40 or 8:45 pm, but didn't get to the pickup window until 9:05 pm. Sheesh! The crew member at the pickup window was very nice, though. I mention this because it calmed down how silently irritated I was. I can't speak on the other crew members because I had not spoken to any of the others.
I think the lack of speed is a combination of two things: there not being enough staff to handle the amount of customers and just not being speedy. This seems to be the case with many fast food restaurants.
The food was hot and fresh, though.
Anyone else have a similar experience at this one?

Demographics: Female, White, North Carolina, competitive public school, and LGBTQ+
Intended study: Economics (major), Film studies and/or English (minor)
Academics:

• ACT: 34 (R:36, E:35, M:34, S:30)
• SAT: 1500 (W: 740, M: 760)
• Class rank: 2/550
• UW/W GPA: UW: 4.0/4.0 W: 4.7/5.0
• Coursework: Classes I will take by the end of senior year: 14 APs, 2 CC classes, 13 honors, 3 regular
  • AP Scores (did not take AP Stat exam): World History (5), Macro (5), US Gov (5), Seminar (3)
    • Exams to take Junior & Senior year: Chem, Calc BC (AB subscore), Human Geo, Lang, Research, APUSH, APES, Lit

Extracurriculars:
1) Varsity Soccer, 2 year captain, MVP as a junior, 2x All-Conference, led team to playoffs for first time in 5 years
2) Club Soccer, Girls Academy league (highest level of play for girls youth soccer), travel out-of-state (CA, FL, NJ, GA, etc.) every weekend while in season, play with D1 recruits and youth national team players
3) Soccer summer camp counselor, senior year summer, paid hourly
4) Student Council, Student Body VP (12th), Class Treasurer (11th), Class Rep (9th-10th), leader of annual food drive and a birthday box drive (11th), prom committee member
5) Student Newspaper, (hopefully) Co-Editor-in-Chief (12th), Staff Writer (10th-11th)
6) Habitat for Humanity, volunteer building homes in my community, 65+ hours in the organization
7) Volunteer at a local art house theater, volunteer-run venue for indie film festivals, live music, and stand up comedy, usher and help choose films and acts to showcase, 50+ hours in the organization
8) Founder of county-wide bookclub, 25+ members, monthly meetings plus occasional community service
9) National Honor Society, NHS Vice President, 30+ hours of community service
10) Duke Summer Program in Econometrics (10th), 3 weeks, research project on determinants of crime
Awards: *weak need suggestions/help\*
1) AP Capstone Diploma (completed and passed a 5000 word research paper, 2000 word literature review, 1200 word literature review, 20 minute presentation and 10 minute presentation in AP Research and Seminar)
2) Junior Marshall (participated in graduation as a junior for being top 15 in class)
3) The Future of Finance is Female conference (female leaders in investment banking and consulting lead the conference, was invited and attended in 10th)
4) AP Scholar with Distinction
5) *need to find something asap*
Schools:

• UNC-CH (EA) (applying for morehead-cain scholarship and honors college)
• UVA (EA) (applying for jefferson scholarship)
• NC State (EA)
• UChicago (EA)
• Duke (RD)
• Dartmouth (RD)
• Brown (RD)
• Cornell (RD)

LMK what you think my chances are at these schools! Also, should I submit ACT or SAT (superscored) or both? And, what awards/competitions related to my major (econ) or minors (film/english) should I do?

Demographics

• Gender: Male
• Race/Ethnicity: Nepalese/Asian (rip)
• Residence: North Carolina
• Income Bracket: ~130k (upper middle)
• Type of School: semi-competitive public (Sends a few to T20s but most of the smart kids end up at UNC/NCSU)
• Hooks (Recruited Athlete, URM, First-Gen, Geographic, Legacy, etc.): None

Intended Major(s): CS (rip)
Academics

• GPA (UW/W): 4.38W/3.79UW
• Rank (or percentile): 86/415 (barely outside of top 20%). Hasn't updated tho.
• # of Honors/AP/IB/Dual Enrollment/etc.: 7 APs, 7 DEs, 15 honors by end of high school
• Senior Year Course Load: 3 APs (Psych, Stats, CSA) 3 DEs (5 including summer after Junior year) and 2 honors.

Standardized Testing
List the highest scores earned and all scores that were reported.

• SAT I: 1500 (710RW, 790M) superscore, highest single was 1460 (670RW, 790M)
• ACT: 29 didn't submit (was half asleep)
• SAT II: N/A
• AP/IB: APWH (4) CSP (3), Calc BC (3 w/ 4 AB subscore)
• Other (ex. IELTS, TOEFL, etc.): N/A

Extracurriculars/Activities
List all extracurricular involvements, including leadership roles, time commitments, major achievements, etc.

1. Foundepresident of STEM club in school (more theoretical/conceptual STEM)
2. Temporary teacher at my hometown in Nepal
3. Internship at SW startup
4. Crypto trading, 45k+ revenue
5. Online tutoring younger cousins from back home
6. Virtual Camp counselor
7. Initiated a school-wide vigil for Uvalde Shooting Victims (didn't wanna list but everyone told me including counselor)
8. DECA Member
9. Key Club Member
10. Photog acc, amassed a decent following

Awards/Honors
List all awards and honors submitted on your application.

1. NHS
2. AP Scholar
3. Some Python certification
4. Some AutoCad certification

my awards were ass
Letters of Recommendation
DE Supervisor: Read the rec, also my club advisor, everyone who has read it said it was very well-written
English Teacher: Heard she writes solid recs but was kind of in the background in the class, mostly slacked off but still did well, can't say for sure how it was
Counselor: Had a really good relationship w her, she helped me through tough times and I just had an overall really good relationship with her.
Interviews
Didn't have any
Essays
Think these were my strongest piece. My personal statement was sort of relatable but also somewhat unique (talked about a teacher who helped me find my voice and how I dealt with switching to 12 different schools and the growth that ensued. Most of my essay focused on my growth). Everyone who has read it so far has said it's incredible.
I think my strongest supplements were my UMD Supplements by far but all of them were also really well written.
Decisions (indicate ED/EA/REA/SCEA/RD)
Acceptances:

• Northeastern (ED1). Admitted to Boston for CS+Econ but switched to CS+Business (committed)
• Pitt (Rolling) admitted CS
• ASU (Rolling), 16.5k/yr scholly, admitted CS
• CU Boulder (EA) not for CS though, Exploratory program and 6.25k/yr scholly
• UMD (EA) L&S undecided
• Rose-Hulman (EA) 25k/yr scholly+really good aid, also admitted CS

Deferrals:

• NC State (EA). This kinda hurt ngl
• Ohio State (EA). Who tf wants to go to Ohio.
• UW-Madison (EA). Expected it.

Waitlists:

• UNC (EA). Didn't have high hopes even as an in-state applicant, the cutoff seemed to be 4.4 since nobody with a gpa lower got in and pretty much everyone with that gpa or higher did. Same with NCSU.

Rejections:

• Case Western (EA). Didn't hurt in the slightest
• Grinnell (RD). Didn't even realize I applied lmfao

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Other:
Withdrew all my applications. Northeastern initially gave me 77k/yr and to say those 9 days were pretty hell for me would be an understatement. Thankfully the appeal worked, and now it'll put me in less debt than my state flagship :D. Think there was an error when doing some calculation w/ CSS, not sure if the error was on my part or theirs, but it doesn't matter anymore. My NPC was met on the dot.
My advice: Don't panic, it'll all work out, one way or another.

I continued trying to have some kind of contact with my mom. I gave her the ultimatum that to be in my son’s life, she had to get professional help and be sober for some length of time. She said she would never go to therapy, but she would try meetings. We met up for lunch every so often, usually at a diner near her home, and it was awkward but mostly low-drama. My wife and son remained off the table until she could give me reason to trust her.
And every time we met up in person, she was back to drunk-calling me in less than two weeks.
Tuesday, November 29th, 2016
My mother calls me, drunk, late at night. When I remind her of the “no phone calls after 5” boundary (which we’ve discussed very recently during our last visit), she says “but that was ages ago!”
From me:
When we last had lunch—twelve days ago, not "ages ago"—I told you what I needed to be able to trust you. You just trampled all over that. So one of three things must be true: A) you were drunk when you called me just now, B) you're experiencing cognitive decline such that you don't remember a very recent, supposedly important conversation, or C) you weren't really paying attention during that conversation, just yes-mabeling me so you could get access to my son, because you still don't see me as fully human or give a shit about me except in that it hurts your ego when we're not in touch and you don't have baby pictures to show off.
If it's B, please tell your doctor what's going on. But my money is on C, given that every time I try to give you a chance, you end up hurting me.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt that you really don't remember, this is what I said:
1) I have spent way too much of my life trying to figure out whether you were drunk or not, lying to me or not. I'm done with that. Don't give me reason to wonder, and I'll assume you're acting in good faith. This means not calling me in the evening, not drunk-calling people you know through me ([MIL], [friend’s mom whom she barely knows], etc.), and not being drunk at family gatherings. Basically, don't make your drinking my problem anymore, and don't make me wonder.
2) I need to know that you will respect my boundaries, even if they're inconvenient for you. That means that if I tell you I need space, give me space. Which means not calling or emailing me, not trying to get at me through [wife], and not shit-talking me to people who know us both.
I sat in your living room and said all this less than two weeks ago, and you claimed to understand when I said that these were the only conditions under which I could have any kind of relationship with you.
You never call me during the day, so calling me at night (and regardless of our history, who the hell calls someone with a fussy infant after 8PM anyway?) is a pathetically obvious power play.
IF you are really taking recovery seriously and doing the work, you will understand that it takes a long time to earn back the trust of people you've harmed with your drinking. It's not a switch that can be thrown. And you'll know that you don't have to understand or agree with someone's boundaries to respect them.
So this is it: last chance. I need some space. I'm asking you not to contact me until I'm ready. That means not calling, texting, emailing, or showing up at my home, not trying to get at me through [wife] or anyone else, not having [Narc grandma] write another of her disgustingly manipulative nastygrams to get me back in line. I'm not giving you a time frame, because I honestly have no idea how long it will be. Or you can keep pushing my boundaries and destroy any chance that I will ever trust you or want to see you again. Your choice.
From her, the next day:
[childhood nickname],
I truly apologize. It's not A, B or C. D is I thought that since I'm not drinking, the previous barriers didn't apply. Now I know better, and will give you the room you say you need, though how I can prove myself with no communication is beyond me.
When you're ready, I will bring you the photo album you wanted to see.
Love,
From me:
I literally said in so many words on Thursday that they still applied. I told you I'd give you the benefit of the doubt about not drinking—even though you've lied to me about it countless times before—as long as you didn't make me play this horrible, painful guessing game anymore, and I explicitly mentioned calling me in the evening.
You can prove yourself by leaving me be and working on yourself. By giving me space and not saying nasty things about me that you know will get back to me. By giving me a real, actual break from the emotional labor of constantly trying to figure out whether I can trust you.
Wednesday, December 21st, 2016
From her:
[childhood nickname] dear,
Just want you to know I very much wanted to send salutations to mark [misspelling of son’s name]'s 4 month milestone, but my net was down from early Friday morning until this morning.
This is a transparent (to me) attempt to frame my frustration with her as the result of unrealistic expectations. Why, she is just a poor waif who struggles with her internet connection, and I’m shunning her just because she didn’t wish my son, whose name she totally knows, a happy four-months since being born! I'm sure many of you know this tune and can hum along.
We continue to be VVLC. She tries to get both Narc grandma and my dad to intervene; my dad, to my great relief, hears me when I tell him that he needs to stay out of it and never brings her up to me again for the rest of his life.
Saturday, June 10th, 2017
From her:
I've torn my apartment apart looking for my knitting needles. Did I lend them to you?
From me, nearly a month later, because I’m not checking my email from her all that often:
I do have some, though definitely not all, of your knitting needles. I can mail them to you if you'd like. I have no idea where the rest might be.
I was beginning to feel that you were finally giving me space, that I might consider trying to re-establish some kind of conversation with you in the hope of seeing if there is a place for us in each others' lives going forward. Then I received [Narc grandma]’s latest salvo, and it's clear that nothing has changed—you are still claiming that this estrangement was out of the blue, that I never explained to you why I needed this distance, that I am doing it to punish you.
I have explained myself to you so many times. I spent countless, irretrievable hours out of the first days and weeks of my son's life trying over and over to find the perfect words that would help you understand why it hurts me to be around you, why I could no longer swallow that hurt, why I did not and do not feel like I can trust you. If you actually care to know, it's all there in black and white.
I don't know what you're doing in recovery if it does not involve any kind of self-reflection or accountability.
If we are to be in touch, I need to know that you really understand what it did to me to grow up with a mother who was drunk every night, who was utterly unpredictable. To be threatened with institutionalization when I defied you, to see you repeatedly hold a knife to your own throat and threaten to kill yourself in front of me. To know that you drove drunk with me in the car. To have you scream and swear at me, to know that you would always, always choose drinking over not hurting me. And I need to know that, in light of all that, you understand why it is difficult for me to be around you.
When you are ready to have a real, honest conversation about that, call me—during the day—and I will answer.
From her:
[my full name],
First, I did not know that [Narc grandma] had been in contact with you until your email and when I asked her later that evening. And I have told her why you felt you needed this distance, and that I've stopped drinking. Her bewilderment is not over that, but about the seemingly endless estrangement, as is mine.
There's been plenty of sell-reflection - that's what happens in the Rooms, and on my own as ell..
I have been hoping that we can find a way to move forward together; that we can put the past behind us and look toward the future. I'm still hoping for that but if you're determined that it's not to be, I will have to find a way to move forward on my own.
Still hoping.
From me:
The estrangement has been ongoing because you have not given me the space I asked for. Every time that I think that you are finally getting it and giving me that space, you email me. You have also called both me and [wife], including in the evenings, which I specifically asked you not to do. Your messages alternate between acting as if I am "banishing" you for mysterious reasons I have refused to explain (e.g. on March 8) and acting as if everything is completely normal and fine (e.g. on April 16 or June 10).
Even this email from you is more of the same: I tell you what I would need to start moving forward (an acknowledgement of your part in this estrangement), and you reframe that as me utterly refusing to entertain the idea of reconciliation.
I have no desire to rehash the past endlessly. But the unacknowledged weight of it distorts every interaction that we have had in my adult life. I am not asking for self-abasement or endless apologies. I am saying that if we are to move forward, we need to have one conversation in which you acknowledge your role in all of this without gaslighting, minimizing, or denial. I need to know that you understand the damage that your drinking has done to me and to our relationship.
I have left the door open. You know what it would take for me to be able to rebuild a relationship with you. If you decide the price of that is too steep, that is a choice you have the right to make.
No response. We are NC for a time, and then I cave again, even though I know in my gut that nothing has changed.
Thursday, August 3rd, 2017
My mother and I meet up for lunch. I speak to her with more honesty and vulnerability than I’ve ever managed to muster. Her eyes slide off me and to the side, the way you’d react to a stranger screaming obscenities on the subway. She keeps repeating that we can’t “move forward” if I won’t let her all the way back into my life, making a little walking gesture with her fingers as she says it. Outside the restaurant, she asks why I’m afraid of her, and I tell her that she’s the angriest person I’ve ever met. “Not anymore,” she says. Something in me breaks. I'm not quite done, but I'm closer to done than I've ever been.
From me, the next day:
I'm writing this out because I find it much easier to gather my thoughts and express myself clearly in text than speaking in the moment. I can also write without disturbing my son during his naps, while I can't always talk on the phone without waking him.
There are a couple of things about yesterday that give me serious misgivings. One is that you asked me, right off the bat, why on earth I would still need space. There are a few problems with this question:
1) It presupposes that everything is settled now, that since the past cannot be changed, it must be as if it never happened. This is not only impossible, but it is how things have operated between us for my whole life—you were allowed to lash out and do and say whatever you felt like in a drunken rage, and if I called you on it once you sobered up, you would not remember, and you'd act as if I was being unreasonable and oversensitive.
2) When I asked you for space before, you never actually gave me that space. During the time that I was trying to take a break, you contacted me more than a dozen times between November and July, called me, called my wife, and sent other people to tell me how unfair I was being. That is not a break. I felt cornered and hunted and was constantly looking over my shoulder.
3) While I was at your apartment yesterday, I developed a crashing stress headache, which I still have today; as soon as I got home, I had the first cold sore outbreak (a stress-related symptom) that I have had in months; and I spent the evening vomiting. I am telling you this not to blame you for my physical symptoms, which are mine to manage, but to help you understand how difficult it is for me to be around you. This has been true for years—I used to need days to recover from visiting you—but now I have a baby (whom I can't kiss right now for fear of making him ill), and I can't compromise my ability to care for him like this.
I also want to address your apology. I appreciate that you say you believe me; that's more of an acknowledgement than you’ve given me before, and I am sure that it was not easy to say. But you have to recognize that it is the bare minimum, and it is not a magic wand that heals all wounds. Saying "I don't remember doing all of what you say I did, but I'm sorry for whatever it was" is not really validating in any way; it shows vague good will but not any real understanding of the damage done.
If you don't remember all of it, do you remember any of it? Do you remember telling me it was my fault you had to drink? Blaming me for your unhappiness in general? Telling me I was wonderful one minute and telling me that I'd ruined your life the next? Because that was all normal to me. I thought it really was all my fault. I thought I was just that bad, that worthless. It was only as I contemplated becoming a parent that I realized how twisted, how damaging that is.
To make matters worse, your not remembering things has been a big part of the pain of all of this—from before the age of reason, I knew that if we had a conversation in the evening, I could not expect you to remember it in the morning. I knew that if there was an emergency in the night, I could not trust that you would wake up, much less be able to keep me safe.
You said that just as I want to protect my son, so [Narc grandma] wants to protect her daughter. What about you? Where was your protective instinct? Now that I have a child of my own, the idea of deliberately incapacitating myself while caring for him is terrifying, horrifying to me. You had to know that your drinking was a problem, and you had to know that it was damaging me, and yet you chose, again and again, not to get help. You chose the appearance of normalcy over getting healthy and being there for me.
Which brings me back to what you said yesterday about wanting to get us back to "a semblance of normalcy." That's a telling phrase. I remember many, many times in childhood, when you were screaming at me, and then the phone would ring. And you would answer it in the happiest, calmest voice imaginable. It terrified me that you could switch it on and off like that, and it made me feel like there was something wrong with me because I couldn't maintain that facade.
My whole life, I have felt like it was my job to keep your secrets. And when you would get sloppy in public, I would feel deep shame that I had somehow failed to protect you from your own actions and that people would know what was going on. One of the main feelings I remember from childhood is shame. I was ashamed of everything about myself. Even now, looking at my copies of the photos you showed me yesterday, which delighted me at first because of their resemblance to [son], just makes me feel sick and sad.
I am writing all of this because I was not able to say it to you yesterday. I get tongue-tied in the moment and talk about trivialities instead. The crux, though, is this: I have gotten healthier over these last few months than I have ever been. I feel right now as if I made a big mistake by visiting yesterday. It was not for [son]'s sake that I got back in touch with you—he will be fine no matter what. And it was definitely not for mine—I am worse off for it. It was out of a sense of obligation to you.
I was not going to send this—I wrote it down to get it out of my head, which is why it might be a bit jumbled—but I realize that the only hope there is to rebuild anything between us is if we are honest with each other.
I won't be up for another in-person visit for a while. I don't know how long. I am open to us corresponding by email—which is easier for me logistically for the reasons I mention above. I am also open to phone conversations, when we can find the time. It's up to you to decide whether that's worth the effort.
From her, nine days later, in a new thread with the subject line “Moving On?”:
[name] Dear,
I've been wracking my brain trying to respond to your last email. When you left here I was guardedly optimistic that by having lunch, hanging out (your words) we could begin to forge something positive between us. I'm heartsick that our meeting so stressed you out.
I have heard everything you've said, and acknowledge and apologize for my past behavior. As I've said, that, along with ensuring that it stays in the past, is really all I can do.
Of course it's worth the trouble to me for us to be in contact. Just hoping that it won't all be talking about what was, but trying to build what can be. Sharing thoughts, stories, experiences. I'm not nearly as good at expressing myself in writing as you are, but will try, and hope for an occasional phone conversation.
From me, the next day:
Thank you for reading what I wrote and for taking your time in responding. I really do appreciate the acknowledgement. I know it can't all be fixed in a word or overnight, nor should it be. I'm comfortable with it being a slow process and comfortable with being uncomfortable sometimes. I hope you are, too.
And I want to reassure you that I really don't want us always or only to talk about the past. The reason I wrote to you is that our meeting felt like the chance for both of us to clear the air, and with one thing and another, there was a lot I needed to say that I didn't have the presence of mind or ability to articulate in the moment.
Let's talk soon. I think this is a relatively light week for [wife], so I should be able to slip away for a phone call at some point.
We try to stay in touch for a while, kind of. I send her photos and grey-rock updates; she sends me weather reports (we live in the same city), occasional photos from my childhood, and offers of random junk she has lying around her home. My son is still off the table.
Sunday, June 19th, 2019
Less than two weeks after another in-person visit, my mother calls me, drunk, late at night.
Some time later, she sends me this:
Hey girl, just wondering how you all are. I just finished walking the [local street fair] and came home with my favorite sour pickles.
So what happened to our playdate? I remeber you saying that the 4 of us would go somewhere like the [museum] or [park]. I would love to do that.
xoxo
From me:
"So what happened to our playdate?"
Do you really not remember? Or are you pretending not to? At this point, I'm not sure which is worse.
From her:
No [my full name], I don't remember. But I assume it has to do with one of the 2 days since March 11, 2017 when I had a couple of drinks, both of which were while telling someone what is (or isn't) going on with us.
Sunday, July 7th, 2019
This is what I finally sent to my mother in response to the above:
[her full name],
I see that you're still blaming me for your bad choices and destructive behavior, as you've always done. This is the lie that poisoned my childhood and distorted my sense of self, the lie you've told me all my life. Maybe you even believe it yourself. Certainly your nightmare of a mother does. But I am an adult now, and a parent, and I no longer believe it. And you are an adult too, as you were then, and responsible for your own choices.
All I asked you to do was not call me in the evening. It's not complicated or difficult. And yet, despite knowing that it hurts me, you've done it over and over for more than a decade. Every time I've given you another chance, you do it again within two weeks. There's always an excuse or a loophole, always a reason it doesn't really count this time: it used to be that you weren't drinking on that particular night, so I wasn't allowed to be bothered by it. Now it's that this time you were, so you can't be held accountable, and it's my fault anyway.
It doesn't matter to me anymore why you keep doing this: whether it's because you actually don't remember the dozens of times we've had this conversation, or because you want to show me who's boss, or because you have a compulsion to blow things up when you're not getting what you want fast enough. Or because you never stopped drinking in the first place, and you've just been going to meetings and congratulating yourself on how much smarter you are than all the poor saps who are making themselves vulnerable and actually doing the work to get sober and healthy.
I know that you've been through some terrible things in your life. I really hope that some day you'll get tired of lying to yourself and everyone else, decide to take care of your own mental health, and get some real help.
But it's not my job to keep you sober or be your emotional dumping ground; it never was. Putting that responsibility on me from early childhood was an abuse of the natural trust and love that children have for their parents. That you still can't see that means that you are not a safe person for me or my child.
Her response, in its entirety:
Calling me [her full name] was a nice touch.
Monday, July 29th, 2019
A birthday email from my mother:
[name] dear,
First off, Happy Birthday. Hope you do something fun and manage to keep cool.
Second, is there anything I/we can do to change things? I am heartbroken, lonely, numb, and stone cold sober. I feel as though I'm just not even alive without you dear girl.
I love you.
What I wrote but did not send:
I have told you as clearly as I know how, in as many ways as I can express it, exactly what would need to change for me to trust you. Every time, you’ve chosen not to hear me and then complained that I refuse to explain myself.
Nothing has changed. You still minimize your drinking and blame me for it, hold me responsible for your emotional well being, and pretend not to understand the simplest boundary. Whether or not you are currently drinking, that is not sobriety.
Grieving an estrangement is normal. I feel that grief, too. “I feel as though I’m just not even alive without you” is not normal or healthy, and is something that needs to be addressed with a therapist.
Sunday, May 8th, 2022
Mothers’ Day message from her:
Just wishing you a Happy Mother's Day. (And wishing you would wish me a Happy Mother's Day.) Hoping you, [wife] and [my son’s name, misspelled in a different way from the last time] are well.
There has been a trickle of contact since then, including an attempt to break the news of my father’s sudden and violent death to me, a month late, last summer (I am his executor and already knew, but I know she was hoping to break the news to me). But I’ve stopped responding. I’m done.

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Show Notes: ¹ Creedence Clearwater Revival ² Fuck the Pain Away - Peaches ³ Eminence Front jam ⁴ The Clash, Jeff vocals! ⁵ Rupert Holmes
 
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[🍹] Sipping piña coladas
[ ] Tickling the ivories
[ ] Bouncing
[ ] Keyboard Warrior
[ ] CLAV
[ ] 2-Guitar Goose
[ ] Time-traveling to the 80s
[ ] Backstage bananas
[ ] Rocking
[ ] Arpeggiating
[ ] Floating
[ ] Hip swangin'
[🤯] "Are you freaking kidding me right now?"
[ ] Straight Bird'n
[ ] Channeling evil Goose
[ ] Flipping switches
[ ] Razzle dazzle shoulders
[ ] Entering inter-dimensional travel
[❤️] Loving you guys
[ ] Summoning deep space aliens with a mating call
[ ] Crowd Participating
[ ] Wondering whose first Goose show it is
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Seeking a long-term housemate (min 1 year) for a private bed/bath in Edgewater for $925/mo (utilities and Wi-Fi included) in a 2BBA. A $50 background/credit check is required if you are planning to sign a lease. A Non-refundable $300 fee for the management company and a month's rent for the deposit are required. Available June 1st (or as early as mid-May if necessary).
I am located on Sheridan Rd by multiple bus lines, grocery stores, and restaurants which are all walkable and minutes away. Within a <10 min walk is the Loyola University campus, Northwestern University Shuttle, other bus lines (Broadway/Clark/Devon), and Red line CTA (Granville and Thorndale are equidistant).
Building amenities include elevators, mail/package sort, outdoor pool (summer only), gym, sauna, bike storage (one-time fee for registration), and valet parking ($100/mo and not included in rent). The private bedroom has very bright east-facing windows, spacious with a roomy closet. Fully furnished with basic furnishing and LR and Kitchen are shared with me as commons.
About me: I am a female in my 30s. I am currently a full-time nursing student and part-time nursing assistant. I have two cats that are strictly in the living room (no go if you have allergies). I am mostly quiet and approachable, though I keep to myself and my studies. I am clean and expect the same! Female students/nonsmokers are highly preferred, especially if you want to have a chill and quiet place to study/sleep like me! Please no pets unless they are smaller animals that are content to be in your bedroom.
Feel free to reach out to me for more pics/information/questions etc, thanks!

Despite the handful of veg-forward restaurants in town, the local food scene could do much better with vegetarian/vegan options. The majority of restaurants in town feature EXTREMELY meat heavy menus, usually with only 1 vegetarian entree (often none at all). Why is this? Do these chefs lack the ability or the will to provide plant based options? There are lots of vegetarians in town, with even more meat eaters who appreciate good vegetarian options. These menu's feel almost intentionally obtuse, with seemingly very talented chefs putting zero effort into diversifying the meat-centered formula (ex. Vivian, their menu features a disclaimer effectively telling plant based diners that it's not worth coming). I've been to many city's that do much better than Asheville on this front, which is surprising.

TLDR: if you don’t have anything nice to say, keep on scrolling!
Unfortunately, I have to add this bc we can’t do nice things w/o backlash: This is a compilation of mainly Fort Worth based things to do specific for each week. It is NOT all-encompassing, not a top things to do in Fort Worth, & I have not vetted any of these- if something wasn’t fun, I’m not responsible! Please do your own due diligence, check Google & websites. If I missed something, please add it in the comments w/o snark. I try to add links, but sometimes it doesn’t let me. If something is popular & already sold out, there’s no point in posting it, ex: food & wine festival, concerts, etc…Let me reiterate: these are things that are POSSIBLE to do in FORT WORTH for this specific week! If you want ideas of breweries/live music/restaurants etc, just search keywords in the sub- it’s impossible to list them all. FFS just try to be a contributing member of society!
Wednesday, March 29
Funky Picnic Brewery: 7:00 PM 9:00 PM Join us every Wednesday at 7pm for TBG Trivia at Funky Picnic! Each week we will have four rounds of general trivia with host Tall Bearded Guy (TBG Trivia).
Candidate Forums Wednesday, Mar. 29-Thursday, Mar. 30 5:30-8 p.m. Texas A&M-Fort Worth School of Law, 1515 Commerce St., Fort Worth Free Hear the city council, school board, and mayoral candidates discuss pressing community issues in advance of the Saturday, May 6 municipal election.
Stress Less with Mindfulness 12-12:40 p.m. Virtual Free Join Alaina Woolsey with Texas A&M AgriLife during your lunch hour to learn ways to reduce stress.
World Ballet Series: Cinderella 7 p.m. UTA Texas Hall, 701 W. Nedderman Dr., Arlington $40-$89 Forty professional dancers will perform the classic happily ever after ballet.
Thursday, March 30
False Idol Brewing: General Trivia from 7-9pm! Always free to play, bring a team of 1-6 and come on and win some free beers and gift cards.
Texas Rangers Home Opener 3 p.m. Globe Life Field, 734 Stadium Dr., Arlington $90-$575 The Rangers will approach the plate against the 2022 World Series runners-up the Philadelphia Phillies in the first home game of the season.
Jackson Emmer w/Susan Gibson 9:00pm - 12:00am The Post at River East, 2925 Race Street An intimate acoustic performance
Neutral Ground Brewing Company Happy HouCrazy Crowler Sale 4:00 PM- 9:00 PM ZiZi's Food Truck 5:00 PM- 8:30 PM
Easter Bunny Photos Thursday, Mar. 30-Friday, Mar. 31 11 a.m.-7 p.m. North East Mall, 1101 Melbourne Rd., Hurst Free RSVP ahead of time and hop on up to take your springtime shots with a cheerful rabbit.
Refuge After Hours 7:30-9 p.m. Fort Worth Nature Center & Refuge, $2-$10 Enjoy a guided sunset hike along the ridge.
Friday, March 31
Bo Armstrong w/Madison Rodges 9:00pm - 12:00am The Post at River East, 2925 Race Street An intimate acoustic performance
Arlington Renegades Friday, Mar. 31 6 p.m. Choctaw Stadium, 1000 Ballpark Way, Arlington $22-$102 The North Texas XFL team will take on the Seattle Sea Dragons.
Glow in the Dark Easter Egg Hunt 7:30-8:30 p.m. Thomas Place Community Center, 4237 Lafayette Ave., Fort Worth $3 Celebrate Easter teen-style with glow-in-the-dark eggs and a Nerf war (ages 13-16).
Neal McCoy Friday, Mar. 31 10 p.m. Billy Bob’s Texas $18-$30 Kick off your weekend with a country concert at the world’s largest honky-tonk.
Rogers Roundhouse: Jeremy Young @ 8PM
Saturday, April 1
Funky Picnic Brewery 10-11AM: Instructor Lance Perry will guide you through a 45-min beginneintermediate yoga class with an optional beer-in-hand! Bring your own yoga mat! All yoga will be conducted in our temperature-controlled taproom.
Zoo Run Saturday, Apr. 1 6:30-10 a.m. Fort Worth Zoo, 1989 Colonial Pkwy., Fort Worth $30-$40 Unleash your inner wild side with a spring race through the exhibits.
Neutral Ground Brewing Company NGBC 2nd Anniversary Party, All day
Panther City Lacrosse Fan Club Meetup GroupSaturday, April 1, 2023 5:00 PM to 7:00 PM CDT Dickies Arena 1911 Montgomery St
DFW F1 Fan Club Meet up @ 11PM Conlon’s Pub (search the sub, sorry it’s not letting me add links)
Sunday, April 2
False Idol Brewing: All Day Happy Hour $3 Lagers & Fenris Park $5 Micheladas, Mimosas & Beermosas
Misc:
Don’t miss your chance to see “Annie” at Bass Performance Hall through Sunday, April 2. The venue is hosting a ticket lottery from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. each day before the performance. Enter for a chance to purchase $33 tickets.
Zonk Burger, Cowtown’s only vegan burger joint, is shutting its doors on Sunday, April 2. The Race Street restaurant will operate Thursday + Friday, 11 a.m.-8:15 p.m. and Saturday + Sunday, 10 a.m.-4 p.m.
Register now for the semi-annual Tarrant Regional Water District Trash Bash. Gather a group to clean up the Trinity River and Marine Creek Lake on Saturday, April 22 and then celebrate with an after party.
Mark your calendars for Friday, April 7, because Rayland Baxter is coming to Cowtown. The “Yellow Eyes” singer — and son of legendary steel guitarist Bucky Baxter — will perform at Tulips in the Near Southside. Get tickets.
Early registration by Mar 31 but ongoing for Pecan Valley Golf Course’s Cowtown Masters Par 3 Contest taking place April 5th:

Hey all! If you’re reading this, then you likely saw one of my posts where I take a trans pride flag up various mountains. This post serves as a way of answering some of the more common questions I get while also giving myself space to articulate exactly what it is I’m doing and why
Who am I???
My full name is Veronica Ashcroft (she/her), though I oftentimes refer to myself by my nickname, Vera. I am a transgender hiker and aspiring mountaineer from the Northeast who spends a lot of time outside. I recently bought a van and have converted it into a little mobile-living space, and that combined with my recent decision to do seasonal work means that I have a lot of free time on my hands – free time that I intend to spend hiking and peakbagging as much as I can!
What is peakbagging?
Peakbagging is a style of climbing mountains where the goal is to summit a peak This can take on many different forms, from just generally trying to summit peaks as a goal of climbing/mountaineering, to religiously pursuing lists of mountains grouped together because of their height, significance, etc. The way I personally approach peakbagging is to summit as many peaks as I can within a given timeframe, usually following some list that I either created myself or borrowed from an outside source. Most people who peakbagg do so over the course of months or years, so I'm definitely on one extreme with how much time I put towards my peakbagging projects.
Which mountains have I done, which am I working toward, and what will I tackle in the future?
Last year I took a trans pride flag up the Northeast 115 4000fters list, which is a rather descriptive name, given that there are *basically* 115 4000ft mountains in the American Northeast. This spring I'm working towards the Southeast equivalent of this list, the Southeastern 202 5000fters list, which is similarly descriptive. Once I'm done with that list, my goal is to start cranking my way through the Appalachian 1500ft prominence list, which is much more difficult to describe to someone who isn't a topography nerd, but which basically encompasses most of the remaining significant mountains in the Appalachians that aren't on either of the aforementioned list. That list will take me into the middle of next year to complete due to the fact that it is significantly more challenging than the other two. After that, who knows? Plans made that far out rarely work out for me, but it'll likely be something out west!
Why take a pride flag up mountains?
The simple answer is because I was already going to do these mountains anyway, and taking a pride flag up them allows me to promote trans visibility in the outdoors and spread some positivity in the process. And by god, we need some positivity in the world right now. Fascism is on the rise in my country, and trans people have become one of their key targets. It was already bad last year, and it has gotten worse. Political figures on the right are now openly calling for the "eradication of transgenderism", all the while passing laws that seek to make life for trans youth impossible - and thus, ensuring that many of them die before adulthood. I'm tired of beating around the bush: openly calling for the eradication of an entire group of people while promoting laws designed to rip children form their parents and force them into a christofascist lifestyle is genocidal. The goal of the right will ultimately be to eliminate us as a people, and if they succeed, it will be genocide. They will never stop with the children because it was never about them - it's about preserving their white cishet christian power in society that is rapidly turning away from religion. Obviously taking a flag up some mountains isn't in the same league whatsoever as these efforts to "eradicate" trans people, but we really do need some positivity to stay sane and hopeful in these times. And I'm certainly not going to singlehandedly do that - I'm neither that arrogant nor ambitious to claim something like that. But even if my projects positively impact only a small group of people for a brief period, that will be good enough for me.
Why take a trans pride flag though?
I'm trans, and I'm also a lesbian and sometimes gender nonconforming - I like to joke that I'm a couple different flavors of queer. Intersectionality is important, and when I started these projects last year, I choose to emphasize my trans identity by taking a trans flag up because that was the part of my identity most under-assault. Truth be told, I was originally planning on using a rainbow flag for my current project for the reason of trying to have my project appeal to a wider queer audience. But then, the onslaught of anti-trans laws intensified this year, and I was being reminded daily that people want me dead for who I am, and I know that those people will already be angry to see a queer person taking a rainbow flag up mountains - but they'll be livid to see a trans woman doing the same with a trans pride flag. If I get assaulted it'll be because I'm trans, not because of my other queer identities. And this is of course not to say that other queer people with my identities don't get assaulted, cause they do, but rather to say that, on a personal level, my trans identity is the target for most of the bigotry I face, and so that's the part of my identity that I want to push back with the most.
Why am I not doing something more useful?
With the onslaught of bigotry showing no signs of relenting, I see queer people all over wondering what we can do to fight back. And to be entirely honest, hiking a pride flag up a bunch of mountains definitely isn't the most efficient use of my time and energy right now in that political context. It would probably be a much better idea for me to join one of the many political groups and organizations fighting back against this onslaught of bigotry, rather than doing projects like these. And I know for a fact that some people will look at my project and be disappointed that I'm choosing not to do that. But honestly, hiking makes me really happy, and I've spent the majority of my life profoundly unhappy dealing with issues like depression and gender dysphoria. And now that I'm in a position where I can actually do something like this, I'm gonna, because for most of my life I couldn't even imagine myself having agency over my own life. And, although I'm well aware that the scope of my project is ultimately quite small, I've had enough people both online and irl come up to me and tell me that my projects helped inspire them, or at least just brought some trans positivity in an era that is increasingly frightening for queer people. So yeah, maybe I am "wasting my life" but it's my life to waste, and isn't that the whole point of us fighting for our rights? I think so. Or to put in another way: I was gonna be out here hiking anyway, and adding the pride flag aspect to my hiking projects allows me to do something good for my people, even if it's not that big - and that's a good enough justification for me.
What can you do to help?
If you enjoy my project, please share it with other people - the more people who view/follow what I do, the more effective I'll be in getting the message across. Similarly, if you live in the greater Asheville, NC area and want to reach out to hang out/hike/talk, then please do so! My dms are open both here and on insta, and I'm always looking for people to connect with (this goes for people both inside and outside the region I'm in. Do be aware, I do spend most of my time in mountains with spotty reception, so I might take a few days to get back to you – but rest assured, I will! :)
Is there anywhere else you can follow me?
Yes! I also have an insta that I post to, along with an account on peakbagger detailing the nitty gritty of my hikes. Additionally, I have a personal website where I put detailed trip reports and lots of photos, so be sure to check those out!
What if you have any other questions?
Ask away in the comments, or feel free to dm me and I'll be happy to answer! :)

Hi all, I'm moving to Cardiff in April and have been offered rooms in two houses in Rumney. One is on Kewstoke Avenue and the other is on Tyr-Y-Sarn Rd. They seem to be about the same distance to the city centre by bus, but I don't drive so walkability to shops, restaurants, and other places is quite important to me. In terms of location, safety, neighbourhood quality, walkability, etc, which area would be better? Are there any other factors I should consider when living in this area? Specifically, as a single, 30-something woman? Thank you in advance!

I have this itinerary for 3/4 day trip to Kochi.
Also on my to-do list is: Bioluminance Water thing (worth it?) Kayaking Kochi Food Traditional (pls recommend) Anything else y'all recommend?
I want to go to Alleppey, would it be possible to incorporate that here? Last time I went there I was 7 😭, still remember that trip !!!
I will be staying at a hotel at the location - Mahatma Gandhi Rd, Opposite Cochin Shipyard Limited, Atlantis, Ravipuram, Perumanoor
This is the suggested itinerary, let me know what to skip/modify:
Day -1 10:30am - Aspin wall house tour for three hours Break for lunch ( Fort house restaurant ) ABC art room post lunch (Evening performance if any)
Day -2 10:00am - TKM warehouse KVN warehouse Break for lunch ( Ginger house )
Post lunch : VKL warehouse Jew town exploring ( jew synagogue and dutch palace) Also a good place for shopping
Day -3 10:30am - St. Francis church Santa Cruz Cathedral (Lunch) Kashi town house